What's harder than that is the "cling on" effect. Even if it does not come naturally to you, force yourself to go out and participate in the activities you loved before you were a couple. Benjamin Franklin said, "Keep your eyes wide-open before marriage, half-shut afterwards. This held true for gay, straight, and lesbian couples. This is the best start to ensuring that your relationship will be a long term success. While it is healthiest to accept yourself for who you are openly, one partner may not be ready. Is it Right for Your Gay Relationship?
McWhirter and Mattison note the risk in this stage is that the men may start to find their life with the other to be boring, may sleep apart, may take each other for granted and share little about themselves, or may experience a "mid-life crisis" and grow more distant.
When you are with the right person, you want to do what it takes to make the relationship a success. Homophobia Green discusses briefly the kinds of homophobia gay and lesbian couples face, consistent with Patterson's note of employment and religious discrimination for gays and lesbians. Not healthy love, in any case. Real Life.